If you use VNC much at all, you need JollysFastVNC:
Here’s how it’s better than Apple’s Remote Desktop, which I struggled along with for too many years:
The only thing bad about it JollysFastVNC is… its name.
P.S. You should buy it directly (through Esellerate) instead of through the Mac App Store — Apple is restricting functionality more and more. Patrick’s putting up a valiant effort, but the writing’s on the wall.